TRAGEDY - Hospital Administrator Killed Herself Because She Was About to Turn 30 Without Husband or Children

A 29-year-old woman whose greatest wish was to 'settle down and get married' killed herself after becoming troubled that she was approaching 30 unmarried and childless. Rachel Gow, 29, from Haslingden, Lancashire, struggled to overcome the death of her mother, and desperately wanted a family of her own, an inquest heard.

But as her 30th birthday approached, she revealed to family members that she felt she was 'not where she should be in life' and that other members of her family were 'doing better than her.'

The inquest was told that she was worried her boyfriend Anton Tsvarev, 30 would leave her, and suffered a number of insecurities about the relationship.

The day she died, Miss Gow sent him a text message wishing him 'all the best for the future' before poisoning herself. Mr Tsvarev who had been visiting a friend later found Miss Gow but she died despite attempts by him to revive her.

An inquest was told Miss Gow had been an 'outgoing, adventurous and loving' young woman who had attained a 2:1 in History from Lancaster University before working at Royal Bolton Hospital.

In a statement read to the Burnley hearing Miss Gow's brother Stephen Best and her sister Sarah Davidson said: 'Rachel had been a happy child who had lots of friends, she loved to dance and play the violin.

'She was very close to her sister Sarah.

'She was very academic and following A levels she studied at Lancaster University. She also made people laugh. She was proud to be at Lancaster and also a dizzy blonde.'

The statement added: 'She had three breakups before her relationship with Anton. Her greatest wish was to settle down and get married.'

But Miss Gow's problems began in 2011 after her mother Connie a primary school teacher died from cancer aged 66 in 2011. She took the death 'very hard' but later Miss Gow's family and friends thought she was improving and she met Mr Tsvarev in May 2012 and he moved in with her during 2013. She also got her job at the hospital.

The statement said: 'Following the death of her mother Rachel had a period of independence. She met Anton and they were both extremely happy. He moved in. They had lots in common.

'She did have three breakups before her relationship with Anton and her greatest wish was to settle down, start a relationship and get married.

'But she could not overcome her previous sadness and felt Anton would leave her. She was looking forward to turning 30, planning trips to Italy with Anton and going to go Vegas for her birthday, she was saving money every month.

'But the relationship became unstable and they tried to make it work.

Mr Tsvarev an engineer told the hearing: 'Our relationship had a lot of ups and downs due to her insecurities. This would cause a lot of problems. She constantly felt I was going to leave her but this was not the case.'

Miss Gow who was due to celebrate her 30th birthday in January this year went to see a psychologist in September 2014 and Mr Tsvarev added: 'There had been nothing significant at the time except the anniversary of her mother's death also along with her 30th birthday and mine.

'These were all things that troubled her. She felt she was not where she should be in life.'
He said she felt that she should be married with children and that her siblings were doing better than her and said: 'This was something she struggled with. Rachel had spoken to me about the fact she had researched suicide techniques. 'I was not sure how serious she was about it because she always said things in the heat of the moment.' (Dailymail)